Bringing a senior relative, be it Mom or Dad, into your home, is a significant life change many adult children face. Being part of the ‘sandwich generation’ means this trend may soon start increasing for many households in the US. This transition requires patience, understanding, and a few key strategies to help everyone adjust to the new living arrangement, whether due to pride, financial considerations, guilt, or other factors.
- Prioritize Yourself and Your Family: As you embark on this journey, remember that maintaining a healthy balance between your needs, your family’s needs, and your senior relative’s needs is crucial. Finding time for yourself might feel like an elusive goal, but carving out even a couple of hours each week to focus on your well-being can make a world of difference. Whether pursuing a hobby, spending quality time with your immediate family, or simply unwinding, don’t hesitate to prioritize self-care.
- Embrace the Unchangeable: Everyone has routines, behaviors, and preferences. Accept that not everything can or should be altered. Instead of battling over insignificant matters, consider whether it’s worth the emotional toll. Choosing peace over a minor disagreement can sometimes create a more harmonious living environment.
- Set Clear Boundaries: Open and honest communication is key when it comes to establishing boundaries. Address this topic early on to ensure everyone is on the same page. Setting limits not only helps manage expectations but also fosters a sense of respect for personal space and individual needs.
- Acknowledge Your Efforts: Caring for a senior relative can be a challenging and sometimes thankless role. When the going gets tough, remember that you are doing your best. While immediate praise might be scarce, take pride in your dedication and your positive impact on your loved one’s life.
Nicole Clifton, our former Director of Engagement, notes the following:
“Evaluate your own support network: While stepping into the caregiver role, it can end up feeling really lonely. So as you support your parents, who supports you? A partner? Your kids? Siblings or other family members? Friends? Other medical professionals? A therapist? Religious community or some other type of organized group? A support group? Maybe the support is logistical support in the caregiving itself, or maybe it’s emotional support for you where you can be authentic and transparent about what you’re truly experiencing”.
Adjusting to a permanent living arrangement with a senior relative may have its ups and downs, but by embracing a few essential principles, you can create an environment that promotes understanding, patience, and shared growth. Strive to maintain balance, seek compromise where necessary, set healthy boundaries, and always remind yourself that your efforts are both valuable and commendable. This new chapter in your life offers an opportunity for bonding, mutual support, and the chance to create lasting memories together.
If you cannot cope with your senior loved one living with you, contact us at Options for Senior Living today. Our dedicated, local team of compassionate experts can help to guide you to the best care options available to you and Mom or Dad. Give us a call at 602-845-1320.